Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Later!

 I like the laughter that opens the lips and the heart,
that shows at the same time pearls of the soul.


            Victor Marie Hugo



I am sitting at the kitchen table watching the news on the little TV, Ottawa is going to have a wicked snow storm, and roads may be closed. Other areas will be getting freezing rain, and high winds. I look out my window and see flurries, there is a little bit of snow covering parts of the green grass.

I find myself wishing we would get some bad weather, I know that is bad but today is the day we are to put our  girl on that train back to the Big City not knowing when we will get to see her again. This has been an amazing holiday. The hugs, the laughter, the hugs yes I know I said that one but that is the last one that will linger as I watch her walk on that train later in the day.

The thing about this time of year you can pretend everything is as it was when they were little and they needed you. Truth be told, they always need you but do not necessarily need you. Confusing isn’t it?  You have raised your children to be independent adults that go out into the sometimes scary world and make their own way. You have done your job well if they get on that train, wave goodbye with those tears in your eyes, and possibly theirs, knowing you will truly be there if they ever need you but knowing they are capable of getting along in this big world without that help. They, like you, will miss the hugs and relive those memories you have all created over this holiday but they will get on with their busy lives.

I stare out this window, the weather is fine here, the sun is coming out, and we will be heading for the train soon. I will make a special breakfast; we will all laugh around the table and talk about what the rest of the week will bring. We will look out over the fields and see the trees sway in the wind as a family, not really knowing exactly when we will do this again.

 I know most of you know what I am talking about. Make sure to get that extra hug to get you through. Now off to make that breakfast.

Later

18 comments:

  1. I know what you mean. My three girls are growing up real fast. Ages 22, 20 and almost 17. I wonder how long they will be staying at home. I really don't want them to leave but know they will one day. Makes me feel sad. So I understand how you are feeling.
    Sending hugs for you.

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  2. It is, indeed, a bittersweet time. I enjoyed two 6 year old girls giggling and laughing in my home yesterday. Oh, how I miss those days. As my kids are getting older, I struggle to define myself. Many of us can walk this journey together.

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  3. You have a great talent for putting feelings into words.
    Thank you

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  4. awww, mine are still babes. but they are getting more and more independent and i dread the day they leave for college. so for now extra squishes and kisses! hugs to you!

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  5. So glad you had a terrific Christmas that will provide memories for years to come! God bless...

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  6. Enjoy the moments....wrap them up..put them in your heart and save them for a later day! xoox

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  7. life moves forward whether we're ready or not...

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  8. When our two girls left home, they soon realized how much home meant to them. It sounds like you enjoyed each others company and your descriptions were very vivid and sweet.

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  9. See, now *this* is why we have goats!

    Bittersweet and beautiful......
    ;)

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  10. I'm not ready yet...not finished yet...but will I ever be ready to say good bye to them? I don't know. I'm glad you could all enjoy being together, and can say good bye knowing you've done your job well!

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  11. No matter what, the moment you know they live inside you, they are always yours. So much a part of you. So wonderful to hug and so difficult to say goodbye. Best wishes for a super 2012.

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  12. This sharing is helpful to me. We said goodbye yesterday. Too many tears this time. I know it's about me...maybe I need to write it out. Too many thoughts. Not handling it well. I know better. Sandra

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  13. I went to visit my parents in Florida and it is hard being the daughter leaving and saying goodbye. Even after all these years of doing it.

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  14. I hope your day here went well...and that she was seen off okay. And you're right- the extra hug is a needed thing!
    Did you finally get the snow?
    Thinking of you....

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  15. I understand completly. I'm afraid I had to learn the hard way also how important those hugs are. I'm truly happy that you had special time with your family at Christmas. I wish you a wonderful New Year.

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  16. oooohhhhh b, i love "bad" weather!! days when we are forced to stay inside, bunker down and just enjoy a fire and quiet times!

    roots, wings and a mothers love, there is nothing quite like it!!

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  17. I totally agree with your sentiments. Our oldest is off to University in February and a large part of me doesn't want to let her go. We will be always there for her but although the relationship continues to change the love will always remain.

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  18. I did get my extra hugs to get me through...you are so wise, Friend!

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