Thursday, February 7, 2013

Choice!

'Tis the sunset of life gives me mystical lore,
And coming events cast their shadows before.
                            Cambell


 I am standing here looking down at my feet trying to decide which sock will work for today. This seemingly simple choice takes me back to a time where decisions were made simply for lack of choice.

I knew I would get up on the same side of the bed every morning, as my sister and a cold wall were on the other side.

I knew there would be no choice on what I would be eating for breakfast that choice had never been mine, like it or not.

I knew which shoes I was going to wear as they were the ones sitting by my bed and had to last till the next start of the school year.

I knew the socks with the least amount of toes peeking through were the ones that would be worn.

I knew what I would be wearing to school, that would be the outfit that was still clean and not waiting in a huge pile to be laundered by an overworked weary Mom.

I knew that when I came home for supper it would be waiting and I was grateful for that, no matter what it was.

I know by growing up like that, it has made me appreciate those wonderful decisions that I am lucky enough to make on my own today. I honestly would not change a thing.

Do you think our childhood environment has an impact on our choices today?

Later

34 comments:

  1. Absolutely they have .. hope you went with the Polka Dot socks, they look to be more fun to be making for some Happy Feet

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  2. Oh definitely! I think we are all shaped by our childhood. But I also think we can overcome all...or at least much...of the the negative things that happened way back when. :)

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  3. Yes, your childhood shapes you for better or worse (your decision). I enjoyed reading this comforting post.

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  4. Another vote for the polka dots - too cute PLUS they look super warm and snuggly.

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  5. i remember all of this and more!! my socks always had holes, all clothes were hand-me-downs.

    when i learned to sew and was able to babysit, i was able to make my own clothes.

    i was always grateful gor my moms, home cooked meals!!

    we are better, we are stronger, and i would pick the polka dots!!

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  6. Oh I definitely do. I heard something once that our personalities are formed by the time we are in 2nd grade, so I think our childhood has a major impact on our adult lives.

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  7. Absolutely!!
    I'd go with the sock on your left foot...it looks fuzzy and warm, and that's what I'd need on a day like today! :)

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  8. Sounds like we had similar childhoods.
    I say wear one of each. Rebel!

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  9. I definitely agree with you!

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  10. We are a product of our environment for sure. I say wear the socks just like that!

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  11. I definitely agree with that. Childhood has huge and subtle influences on us for our whole life.

    And I vote for the polka dots~

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  12. Yes...absolutely. So which socks did you pick?

    auntie m...

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  13. i grew up very poor in a large family. it makes me grateful for the freedoms i have as an adult.

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  14. yep, I agree with the others, our childhood paved the way of how it was all to be throughout our lives.

    Gill

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  15. But-- one doesn't have to be tied down by the past-- try to acknowledge it and move forward- otherwise you'll be down in that pit forever.

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  16. Yes, I believe so. I know I got my love of nature, reading, and Christmas from my dad and perhaps my lack of interest in cooking from my mom. I learned about love and to tell right from wrong from both my parents. Thanks for your support during my boring medical posts.

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  17. I believe it does as well . My childhood growing up on a farm taught me about life , nature and to appreciate what you have and respect all around you . To this day I still feel and live by this ! Polka dot socks look snuggly may need that warmth as most of Ontario is to get slammed with a huge snow storm ! Stay safe and warm and have a good day !

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  18. I think so, B. My dad lived though the Great Depression and that had such a big influence on him that even after he was an adult and got a good job and had a family, he still raised my sisters and me as though we were poor and had to watch every penny carefully. That idea rubbed off on me, because I tend to not like too much choice-it seems extravagant and almost wasteful-and even my own daughter Amy is not materialistic like so many high school kids are now days. Great post! Very thought provoking!

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  19. You don't have to make a decision - my younger daughter still wears mismatched socks. But then, she shaved her head for the Mayan end of the world, too...

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  20. Definitely yes! But as adults we have totally control of our own choices.

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  21. My childhood definitely impacted my life, it made me who I am today and that's a GOOD thing! :)
    Love your socks!

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  22. I am going to vote for stripes just to be a renegade.

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  23. ahh.. the privilege and responsibility that comes with choice!
    somedays it's best for me that the biggest choice is just the colour of my sweater!

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  24. Oh, yes, I'm certain! I remember not having many choices as a child and there was some comfort in that. Today I think kids have way too many choices. I love the polka dot sock, btw. Did you choose that one? :)

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  25. Greetings Buttons,

    Indeed, we are the result of the environment we had as children. What we do, what we learn from that, determines how we create the environment of the now.

    I do know also that a positive environment starts from within. And your appreciation of all that your weary mother did, does certainly bode for your ongoing positive future environment. Nice socks! :)

    Greatly appreciate your comment on my site. Thank you.

    Gary

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  26. I knda like the "pair" you have on in the photo... it is two socks - at least it's not just one. At Michaels they sell a doll and other items called "Little Miss Mis-Matched". One of the items you can buy are 3 socks together... all different.

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  27. Yes, I think they do... so much of who we are is who we were...

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  28. I'm with you, B it is great to be able to make choices. Only recently have I been empowered to make choices like what I might cook and buy at the supermarket. Simple choices can bring a great sense of freedom. Your sock choice though is a difficult one.

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  29. I believe that our childhood experiences definitely shape how we see and deal with the world as we grow. I remember the dinners my Mom used to cook - usually rushed meals thrown together after working all day and coming home to two rambunctious youngun's, or two loud pre-teens, or two fighting teenagers while Dad was away (as he often worked out of town) - and some of these dinners are now my favourite comfort food, like Hamburger Gravy. I also remember that we also only got one pair of shoes a year at the beginning of September - hopefully our gym shoes from last year still fit - and to this day I often buy one new pair of runners in the fall, and they last all year (sometimes two years!).

    I too am glad that because my parents worked hard to raise me and my little brother right, we have both grown in to happy, productive, well-adjusted adults, capable of making these decisions.

    As for the sock - who cares if they match?!! I wear mis-matched socks all the time (mostly because my kitten likes to eat just one sock of a pair, so I am left with one good sock and one holey sock - the good one gets a new mate of whichever sock survived the last attack!).

    I'm glad to hear you are feeling better, friend :)

    Hugs,
    Mandi

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  30. We certainly grew up in a different time and space didn't we? Our kids choices are totally different from ours.

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