Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Look Mom!

Because of forgetting,
the innocence of pleasure is perpetually reborn.
                                     Jacob Klatzkin


I arrived at Mom’s armed with my trusty Crock Pot, my homemade banana bread and a smile not knowing what the day would bring. If you have someone who suffers from Alzheimer’s you never really know what to expect. I walked into the kitchen set down that nice pork roast with potatoes and carrots in that pot and plugged it in. I called out Mom I’m here. No response. I walk to her room and she is lounging in bed watching the Space channel. “What are you doing here?” I brought supper remember My Hero will be here later. “Great, I forgot.”

My Mom and My Hero love to watch the show Storage Wars together and shout out “Yup” at different times and we all laugh. She loves these times. It was going to be a good day.

I fiddled around with things that needed to be done and happened to notice that the back deck had a mountain of snow while I was doing the laundry.  I walked back to Mom and I thought since it was not very cold out, it was actually raining a bit I would take her out for a drive if she wanted to go. Mom would you like to go for a drive? “Not today dear” this is a woman who truly loves to go in the car and go anywhere, most times you always hear the “Sure” and she would already be grabbing her purse. She was tired and I understand that.

OK Mom you rest I am going out to clean off the back deck, “OK Dear” I slipped out the front door, grabbed that shovel that Lizzy, Pearly and possibly my Brother D had been using all weekend trying to keep up with the snowstorm and I walked to the back of the house, the snow was over my boots but I kept going. Once I did make it to that porch I was wondering why in the world I would want to tackle such a job. I now understand why no one wanted to do it, the drifts were very high. I knew it had to be done and actually I do not like sitting around and was a little bored.


I dug in one shovel full at a time thinking of my Mom lying in bed and how much she used to love playing in the snow with us kids when we were young. My Mom was always like a big kid and I loved that. We would build snowman and snow forts and by the time we were done there was no snow left in either the back yard or the front. I keep digging all the time thinking of the strength my Mom has and everything she was dealing with now and how she still manages to smile laugh and shout “Yup” with My Hero.

I kept lifting one shovel full at a time then throwing it over the railing I was getting tired but I was almost done. I looked at the flower table and my thoughts wanted to make a gift for Mom on that table where she keeps her indoor flowers all summer. I would make her something special with the drift rather than shovelling it off that table. I transform the gigantic snowdrift, finish clearing the path to the door and then rush into drag Mom to the back door to show her my surprise.

When I went in to get her I had to do some begging, Mom I have a surprise for you come and see.  “Not right now dear” Mom come on; please. I sounded like that child I am sure she sometimes believes I still am. “OK dear”


We walked to that back porch and she looked out the window, she noticed my creation right away, “Oh it is beautiful, it looks like a duck.” Perfect that is what I was going for. Her smile was priceless. I knew I could make her smile; those simple things always excite her. I wonder if she remembers those snowy days we all shared long ago.

During supper Mom stares out that dining room window and looks at that silly duck. My Hero is told to look out the window, and Mom says “Isn’t it beautiful?” “Yup” we all laugh. A good day.

Later


43 comments:

  1. I loved this post, Buttons. My mother-in-law has dementia and - although it's often hard to watch her decline - it sometimes has its priceless moments.

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  2. Lovely post dear... creating something for your mom and causing a smile is a priceless gift. xo

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  3. You have such a gift for showing and sharing love Buttons; thank you for sharing these thoughts and stories with us.

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  4. You made an ordinary day special for her...and that IS a great duck. Yuppp!

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  5. oh buttons, i love this post...you take such great care of your sweet mom. i love your surprise you made her :)

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  6. You are so sweet to make her a snow duck :-)

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  7. Miss B,

    Hang in there. Keep loving the Mom you know. I am sure it's challenging, but in the big picture her heart knows all the love you have and the good you do.

    Thoughts, Prayers and Hugs to you.

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  8. I am very pms at the moment, so your post made me have tears in my eyes.

    I hope you have more moments like that.....

    Gill

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  9. Ahh, so beautiful! Such love and warmth, despite the snow, throughout this post. Loved your duck, too~

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  10. So glad that she has you to help her smile.

    Love you both, BA

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  11. Lovely. Nice you can come down to their world. I know. Was there yesterday too. Only broke down in the car afterwards.

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  12. Oh, this is so sweet! Your mom is lucky to have a daughter like you. You take such good care of her even though I'm sure it's so very hard. Your duck is cute :)

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  13. Your mom is blessed to have you for a daughter.

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  14. I am so glad your Mom enjoyed your creation! You are a wonderful daughter to her...you know just what she needs to smile, and keep at it until she does! :)

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  15. Very, very impressive! Your mom is a lucky woman to have you about. I've only had snow that deep twice in my lifetime and I know how hard it is to shovel when there is no easy place to put it!

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  16. Those "special" moments stay captured within your heart..my Mom used to LOVE The Price is Right. LOVE the Duck !

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  17. What a great amount of snow! How much fun!

    The Darjeeling Darlings
    http://darjeelingdarlings.blogspot.com

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  18. A touching post B. My mom had Alzheimer’s, and I loved to make her smile. That's a pretty good snow carving!

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  19. Crying again. You have a way of doing that to me, tapping into my heart and prodding things 'round. This was a post that I will remember when the day comes that someone I love needs a duck. Yup.

    Blessings, Debbie

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  20. Loving the duck, so happy it could put a smile on your mum's face.

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  21. Awe Buttons, I loved this post. My dad is starting to show signs and I live 3 1/2 hours away. I especially notice it more since I don't see him everyday.

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  22. Ah; love transcends all!

    love your new "leo"- perfect name for a perfect gift !

    and you apparently got the same snowstorm that trapped me in a city for days - i languished like E.T. until we got home last night....

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  23. What a sweet story! The snow duck is precious. Bless you for taking such good care of your mom. :)

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  24. You are such a delight! I love what you did! My parents are getting older and it's for me to accept. You inspire me with the love and patience you have for your mom. Hugs, sweet B.

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  25. This is a charming post, B, I'm glad you had a good day.

    Love the duck!

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  26. Haha you're adorable, Miss Buttons!!! Your Mom is lucky to have you and the rest of your loving family to keep her company :)
    Hugs,
    Mandi

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  27. You are such a sweet & patient daughter- I'll bet that snow was hard to shovel.

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  28. This is such a special story. It is so hard to watch our parents age isn't it?

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  29. Oh Buttons, you are such a good daughter! I'm glad your mom liked the snow duck, it's awesome! :)

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  30. My goodness you sure do have a lot of snow there. We had a bit of snow fall this morning but it's all gone now. We don't get snow like yours here.
    I love the duck you made for your mum, and I love how it made her smile. It does sound like you had a really good day :))

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  31. Smiles, laughter and love!! Yup, they are the greatest gifts of all!!

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  32. This is such a tender and touching story. I can't imagine what it would be like to have a parent with Alalzheimer's. Bless you for enriching your mom's life.

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  33. With those red gloves on top I thought you'd made a spring chicken. Just what we all need to see when February seems like the longest month.

    I've shoveled snow mountains before by myself. When I do I find myself singing "High Hopes."

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  34. Love it! You are such a talented sweetheart!

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  35. I teared up. Thank you for sharing.

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  36. You are so lucky to be close to your mother. My grandmother was so far away when she started to lose her memory. I am glad you had such a good day. You are blessed.

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  37. Thanks for sharing. It's nice that your mom is still able to stay home. My step Dad has Alzheimer's we had to put him in a nursing home. My poor mom is running herself ragged. He's going down hill fast. I don't understand why people have to get this horrible disease. Sounds like your mom is doing pretty good cherish the days.

    Saun

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  38. You are a good daughter, Buttons, taking care of your Mom, not only physically, but in all other ways, too. Doing those special little things to make her smile and remembering the kind of special Mother she was while you were working so hard. I know how hard you want to hang on to these things and how important these small moments are. You take right after her, strong and fun loving and kind. Yup. Hugs, xoxo

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  39. Loved how you made the duck and that your Mom loved it too. Good on you for that beaut day :D)

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  40. its wonderful just to share those little things. one day you will remember that and smile! hugs to you wonderful B!

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