Monday, November 11, 2013

A Brave Front! (Thank you to Our Veterans)

The best hearts are the bravest.
           Laurence Sterne

Unknown roads!
Wow what a tough few months it has been. As you know we had moved my Mom into a place where she would be safe, comfortable and hopefully be happy, this was a decision that we all struggled with but I can now see as I walk in to visit her and she flashes that big smile, says a silly old saying and then I hear that unforgettable laugh I know in my head it was the right decision, this gives me such comfort.

 Anyone that has ever had to go through this will understand the emotions that come with sorting through boxes from a long life filled with many stories and memories. Some sad ones but most of these happy memories are all tied up in the most insignificant of things and this means raw emotions for all involved to bubble to the surface in even the best most loving families. This is a process that after talking to many of my friends is such an unfortunate fact of a life well lived that eventually all families must go through.
 I know for a fact that we will all get finished with this emotionally charged task and get back to just focusing on what is truly important in our lives. Loving each other and trying to create our own memories with “little mementoes” that our children will have to sort through someday as well. It is a circle that keeps repeating generation to generation.

This whole event has me thinking a lot and as I stood looking at a photo of my Grandfather in his WW2 Army uniform with that familiar salute and his handsome twinkling eyes and huge smile I think of what was lying just behind that “brave front” face he was showing because he knew this photo was going home to his family, the family he had to leave behind. Some people say I think too much but I was told by someone this would be the writer in me so I guess it is OK. Every writer I know thinks too much and feels too much. My Grandma used to have a saying “Put on a brave front” I know now what she meant.

It is Remembrance Day/Veteran’s Day and oh so many families over the generations have been affected by wars and the needs of people all around this world of ours, conflicts and injustices of the innocent that take brave men and woman away from their families for long periods of time. I am positive anything I may be feeling in this whole emotional process these days is NOTHING compared to that which our men and women in our military families feel and go through every time they watch their loved ones board a plane or a ship with a green pack filled with necessities and a few small special mementoes and photos of the ones they are leaving behind.

These brave men and women pull themselves away from the smiling but tear stained faces of their children and their partners while wearing a “brave front” face trying to hide their sadness, they then leave the ones they love on the shore or tarmac for who knows how long. Everyone waves goodbye while trying to look oh so strong on both sides, the one heading out and the one staying home to hold everything together the best they can till they will once again be reunited hopefully just the way they left things at that time.

My Grandfather was one of those brave men that left his wife and four young children standing waving goodbye as he headed into the unknown for five very long years with a few photos and sentimental mementoes tucked in a pack with his head full of memories hoping his family would be alright and truly understand the reasons he had to leave while he was off trying to save them and others from unknown harm that could come from far away and help the people that needed him. Hoping they would all get past the pain, the loneliness and the separation that he knew they would go through just as he knew he would go through. Sacrifices no one will ever know unless they have actually gone through this.


Thank you to all our Veterans and their brave families for everything they have sacrificed for us all. Thanks Grampa I pretty sure we all understand and we are so proud of you and Grandma, your sacrifices will never be forgotten.


Later

37 comments:

  1. You're right. We owe a lot to people like your grandfather. Becouse of them we can live in freedom! Tribute!

    Salute from the Netherlands,
    DzjieDzjee

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  2. My dad never talked about his experiences in WWII -- so I don't know much about what he went through. Putting on a brave front many, many years after the war had ended...

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  3. And the brave front continues as men came/come home from the line of duty suffering from PTSD, amputations and other battle related illnesses.

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  4. It's wonderful you have those pictures and memories.

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  5. I think sometimes we take our freedoms for granted. Thank you to all the Veterans like your Grandfather so that you and I may be free.

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  6. I am glad you know in your head the decisions about your mom were for the good and that she is happy. And I feel an eternal sense of gratitude too all the veterans. Such selflessness!

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  7. Amen, Buttons! Thanks to folks like your Grandfather, and countless others then and in the long decades and long wars since, we civilians have the chance to be free to pursue our lives and dreams.

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  8. Such a well written post, Buttons! I'm glad you're seeing your Mom happy and safe, and feeling better about the decision that you had to make. I'm sure this time of sorting brings all sorts of emotions to the surface...laughter and tears at the same time! Hugs!

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  9. I am glad things are going well for your mother, Buttons.

    Though I have no family history of military service, I am truly grateful for those who have served our country in this way.

    Hugs,
    Nellie

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  10. I am glad your feeling more settled with your moms move Buttons. It sounds like she is happy right where she is in the moment and your sharing good times there.
    My dad was a Veteran and we were a military family from the time I was born until well after I graduated high school. I am grateful for his service and I know first hand how hard it can be at times for the whole family.
    I am proud of my dad and us as a family that served and endured with the best front we could for the good of the whole.
    My hats off with appreciation to all the milit.ary families
    I am also so glad that I now have a stable life with roots here at the farm. A military family ( at least in our case) uproots almost every two years , we moved throughout the U.S. and overseas .
    Often I came here to this farm for vacations as a child in the Summer and dreamed I would live here someday .

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  11. It's so important to remember the sacrifices of all who serve as well as their families. I can't even imagine how difficult it must have been, but am so very very thankful. I know that the lifestyle I enjoy today is possible because of them.

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  12. My dad and mom met when they were in service even though they were never deployed because it was at the end of WW2. My uncle trained to be a fighter pilot but he too never saw action. I am thankful for the men and women who are willing to put their life on the line for their country- and other countries- and I am thankful and pray for the souls of those who paid the ultimate price.

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  13. It's great that you have chosen thiese photos as a reminder.

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  14. very true. a brave front going...and probably coming back.

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  15. A beautiful remembrance, B. Thank you to your grandfather for his sacrifices and service. I think my father must have put on a brave front in leaving for war and in coming back.

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  16. My brother served and the effects have been devastating for our family. I have many students return and they too have been altered. I agree the sacrifice given by our soldiers is the greatest sacrifice that can be given. Thank you for the beautiful tribute.

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  17. What treasured memories they are in both words and photos. Brave fronts perhaps in both going and coming home. Such a huge sacrifice to keep us safe and free. Beautiful tribute B.

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  18. One of my favorite pictures is of my grandfather as a young man in uniform hugging his widowed mother before leaving to serve!
    I am grateful for all of their sacrifices.

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  19. Wonderful memories, B and a beautiful post. Thank God for our service men and women and for their bravery.

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  20. I too, cannot imagine the wrenching of one's heart and soul to wave goodbye to a loved one not knowing if it will be the last word and kiss... what a wonderful tribute to you grandfather... glad your mom is happy.... Thank you for remembering and honoring our veterans today.

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  21. My Dad served during the Second World War and NEVER wanted to talk about it. I think he had many grim memories. Yes, we owe a lot to those who've risked or lost their lives in such conflicts.

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  22. I love it when the sunlight catches the hydro wires like this!!
    And yes, we owe so much to our veterans, likely more than we even know...

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  23. Wonderful memories, wonderful evocative post as well. We owe our all here on earth to our Veterans.

    I am throwing out some things to keep my three sons from having quite as much to sort through by and by.

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  24. I'm glad your mom is happy in her new place.

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  25. It sounds like you have been through so much pain and heartache recently. Wishing you rest and strength as you press on. XO

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  26. Beautifully expressed, Buttons! You have captured the emotions in these difficult partings, both with sorting through a lifetime of belongings and the sacrifices that veteran's and their families make on our country's behalf. These things are painful reminders of how precious our connections with our loved ones are and how we owe so much to those who have come before us. Keep a brave front my Dear. Hugs xoxo Karen

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  27. That is so lovely to know your mum is happy in her new home along with you being happy that she is there..
    Hugs M xoxo

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  28. I trying to imagine being away from family for 5 years. A true sacrifice

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  29. Hear hear buttons, I totally agree with everything you say. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it is for anyone fighting in a war.
    I'm so glad to hear your mum is happy where she is now. I remember a few years ago my mum having to make that decision about my gran and how difficult it was for her.
    Thanks for liking my holiday pics we did have a fab time :))

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  30. I thank your grandpa for his service! My grandfather also served in World War 2 and he passed away when I was young, but my grandma has told me stories of how hard it was when he came back home. I have great respect for military families.

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  31. My dad didn't talk about it either as I look back now. I'm sure he was putting on a brave front too. Why do most man do that? Have a great week!

    Hugs Saun

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  32. I'm glad to hear your mother is doing so well in her new surroundings. My husband and his siblings had to face that this year, also, with both parents. They got along ok at home when there were two of them, but after his dad fell and had to be hospitalized, it wasn't long until reality hit. Then his mother passed in August.
    Those were some long deployments in the World Wars, and not the communication that is available today. I am thankful for the sacrifices they made for the rest of us.

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