Friday, December 13, 2013

A Necessary Life Event.....but.....Tis the Season!

We live in deeds, not years;
in thoughts, not breaths;
in feelings, not figures on the dial;
we should count time by heartthrobs.
He most lives who thinks most,
feels the noblest, acts the best.
             Gamaliel Bailey


It is now only 12 days before Christmas Day and I have yet to shop for one present, bake one cookie or decorate one branch of a fake tree still bundled up in the basement and no doubt wondering if it had slept through the season.

The happiness and joy of this season had been postponed by one of those necessary life events that many families before me and I am positive after me will have to go through. You may also be riding a roller coaster of emotions waiting on a ride that you did not necessarily want hoping you can get to that new normal at the end, hold on tight you will make it. It honestly does not matter what life event you have been going through, we all have them.

The only difference about my necessary life event to find that new normal was the timing and that looming deadline of that supposed to be full of happiness and bliss season. 12 days left to pull it all together so my family and not to forget myself will truly have the season of joy we rightly deserve.


I would love to share this necessary life event filled with the many stories and emotions that I have gathered along the way with you all but I need to find the joy of the season and put the last couple of months in a sealed box for now and possibly pull them out in the New Year because I am going to dig out all that joy and happiness of this festive season no matter what it takes because my family deserves no less.

The New Year will bring with it a new normal where everyone will deal with those things involved in their own necessary life events, we are by no means the only family going through life changes that need to be addressed but I do believe every moment in life has a season and a reason and we will all get through these things together. No matter what your necessary life event is, get on with those festivities and find the joy that the season brings and you and your family deserve. Whatever that necessary life event that crept into your life may be, try to remember it will pass and you will make it through to that new normal, so take time to absorb the season and the reason, the family and the love.

12 days eh…….. well I know I can do it, it may not be exactly the normal everyone has been accustomed  to but, with everything in life you do the best you can with what you have and it will all work out. It is truly all about family and love. 12 days, no problem.


I wonder if my Mom would like yet another scarf with that new stitch she taught me last week, I so cherish those moments where she teaches and I try to learn. That has me wondering …….how many of my scarves the people on my list could actually unwrap and still look surprised.  Tis the season to be jolly…….Fa la la la la la la la la.

Later


Happy Birthday BA, love you. xoxoxo Hugs

48 comments:

  1. Hope everything settles down for you soon. Remember....it's not all the fuss and planning that makes Christmas special...it's the gathering with family and friends...the sharing of memories...NOT how much you spent or how many decorations you have around the house. Cookies can be bought, they don't HAVE to be home made...meals can be pot luck with everyone sharing the work load...gifts do NOT have to be expensive. Relax and enjoy the season girl.....Merry Christmas.

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  2. I am so sorry to hear about the difficult times Delores. This is a tough time of year to be going through something - but hopefully after Christmas it can be resolved.

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  3. Now you have me wondering what did happen...
    Have fun now getting into the Christmas season and putting up your tree and cooking if you have time.
    Take care my friend..Hugs M xox

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  4. Life is full of new normals whether we like them or not. Although usually at the end we're better for them, even if getting there is a bumpy ride.

    Hugs,
    Andrea

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  5. for me...tradition has a flowing quality to it. change is the only constant.

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  6. Sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time. Don't stress about having everything perfect. Getting together with family is the most important thing and feeling their love.

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  7. We grin, we bare it , despite the pain , we put on a fairly good front knowing ... this too shall pass . We will eventually adapt , and yes even feel the joy again , eventually be back in the moment.

    Hugs Buttons

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  8. I hope your life event is not too much to bear- it's always bad timing during the holidays, but really..life doesn't much care the day,nor the hour. Blessings..hugs...prayers...cheers.sending all your way!

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  9. Buttons,
    I love your thoughts and words today! Your opening quote is perfect. Your words are something I needed to hear.

    I have not decorated for Christmas either. I am getting close. Next time I clean house I thought I better get some holiday cheer out. We have done most of our Christmas shopping by the click of a mouse. Amazon and free shipping is the way it goes this year.

    I think it is awesome you learned a new knitting stitch from your Mom this week!

    Hugs and Good Wishes to you!

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  10. B, I am sorry things have been tough. But your attitude is wonderful and your spirit is shining. Do what you can and don't fret over the rest. I didn't pull out all my decorations this year. I kind of like the simpler approach this year. I do need to shop, but it will get done. I hope you feel the joy of the season--and the peace too. :-)

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  11. Just do what you can and don't worry about the rest. Everyone will understand. The gifts or the cookies aren't what truly matters anyhow!

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  12. Sweet B,

    I so hear you and totally understand. This Christmas is going to be a very hard one for me and family. With Dad's passing, and now Mom being in the hospital, I've had no time to decorate or even make gifts.
    Take a deep breath, and realize Christmas is about your loved ones, not about decorating or shopping for gifts.
    Stay warm my friend, and things will get better.

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  13. hugs and prayers to you miss buttons....it will all work out in the end...try not to stress over it all...and if it makes you feel any better, i'm not anywhere near ready either!

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  14. After reading this, I will think of you and worry some. Being 73, I have lived through so many life events and, while it is true that they pass, that you come out on the other side somehow, they are still so very difficult.

    Please don't add Christmas expectations to your worries. You know,the joy of Christmas comes from within. All you need are candles all around, a fire in the fireplace, your knitting, your Hero, and some Nat King Cole on the CD player.

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  15. the timing of these things is never good around the holidays. we've had several in our family that occurred in dec and early jan. always brings a cloak of sorrow to accompany the holidays.

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  16. Oh, I love that radio, my gramma had one just like it. I know what you mean B about trying to pull Christmas together in a week and a half. I am doing the same after being ill for 6 weeks. I hope your necessary life event will fade into the background and you can enjoy your family Christmas. *hugs*

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  17. Homemade with love is ALWAYS better than store bought in my book! And everyone here in Canada can use a new scarf. ;))

    I'm sure you can pull it together in 12 days, Buttons! You have a good attitude and from that you will find the energy. Oh, and joy doesn't HAVE to be a carbon copy of Christmases past.

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  18. A big warm hug! Linda@Wetcreek Blog

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  19. Hang in there, Buttons! Take it easy on yourself this Christmas. The more relaxed you are, the happier your family will be, even if you don't get all the decorations up...after all, it isn't about decorations, or even gifts, but rather the giving of yourself to those you love and those around you.

    Peace, my friend!

    MW

    http://themonkeywranglersblog.blogspot.com/2013/12/random-5-friday-121313.html

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  20. Sad to hear you are going through a rough time. May God grant you peace each day, courage to face what needs to be faced, and contentment in what you cannot change. Thinking of you...

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  21. December and February are not good months here. I am sure it is the same for everyone else at certain times of the year. Sorry about your troubles. Hopefully you will be able to overcome it. Christmas tends to bring out my Bah Humbug out. I dread it every year. Hugs!

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  22. you've a huge heart following, thoughts helping you along , do your best, baby steps, one at a time...I've cancelled a few Xmas' in the past, worked them a different way and everyone was okay with it. big hugs.

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  23. I am sending you and your family a humongous hug enough to cover any challenging event I can think of. I think they call it the New Year because it can be. And there is no such thing as too many handknit scarves.

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  24. The reason we're here is to be challenged and tested as well as to revel in the Joy and Love that is everywhere. Best wishes in finding your way through these cold days and a Merry Christmas!

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  25. Hang in there Buttons. I'd love to hear your stories about the dark times, when you are ready to share. You tell stories so well and I always find a piece of myself there. In the meantime, enjoy the season. I'm going to try to decorate our tree this weekend. Between the hard freeze and the construction in the kitchen, I keep forgetting about the season.

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  26. Dear Buttons,
    I am praying that 2014 will be a good year for you and all problems will be solved.

    HUGS!!

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  27. Yup, we do all have our troubles, for sure. Hope your life settles down soon and you can find your way back to a new normal. Merry Christmas, Buttons.

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  28. Hugs, precious B. At this season, and every season. I love you! xx

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  29. Sending you many hugs and love through the internet! I don't know what you're going through, but that doesn't matter. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers during this season. I hope you are able to find joy during the holidays.

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  30. You have a neat way of telling us about your family and your mother. they are all important thins in our lives.

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  31. Dats my doppelganger - roll with it Buttons because we make

    EVERY DAY A HAPPY CHRISTMAS!!

    ;p

    of course when it really isnt a happy christmas day, then we write really sad things...or angry, your choice.

    hugs to you, now give me some of your writing skills so I get writing...you do it so dang well, doppelganger sister...

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  32. btw love that radio...and moms hands busily creating - shes got quite the stockpile of yarn in that basket :)

    xoxox

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  33. As it happens, today is a sad for me but reading your post brought it all back into perspective for me.

    Thanks Buttons. I wish you good health and much happiness.
    Hugs

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  34. Me, too!!!!

    Happy Holidays. I'm still waiting for my spirit to hit.

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  35. Sorry to hear this just take each day in stride as Christmas is about love and family more then anything else don't expect things to be perfect as perfection is boring . Thanks for sharing and hope you have a good weekend !

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  36. Ah, leave the tree in the box, leave the lights on the roller. Head outside and look at the beautiful sunshine glistening off the snow covered trees. Those are your Christmas lights on a Christmas tree. Breath the fresh pine scent. You cant beat that!
    Take care.

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  37. Remember the reason for Christmas, and let the warmth of His love for us puny humans fill you up, to overflowing, then you'll find the joy you need.

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  38. Keeping you in my prayers my friend.

    Hugs~

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  39. I am fortunate that this year I was able to do shopping early and actually decorated our tree (first time in years) early too.
    We do all manage to somehow get through the tough times and the good times ahead mean lots of love between family and friends.
    Here's hoping all will turn out for the best in the coming new year and your world will once again become stable. xx

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  40. I just said no to many get togethers and potlucks and parties. I need my time. I also did a bit of decorating this week and man it felt good…I was close to saying nah, too close to the holidays but hey….it's fun to get silly and creative. Missed you, I've been out of the blogosphere.

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  41. Praying that whatever struggles and life events you are going through right now that the joy and peace from the Lord will fill your heart and comfort you.

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  42. I'm so sorry you're going through a difficult time. I pray the New Year brings you peace and you're able to adjust to your new normal. Don't stress over Christmas - as the Grinch discovered, Christmas doesn't come from a store. Enjoy sharing time with your family and you will all find the joy of the season together.

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  43. :-)
    It is the cozy 'bustle' of this season. Don't you just love it!? :-)
    Have fun!

    Greetings from the Netherlands! ;-)
    dzjiedzjee.blogspot.com

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  44. Hey lady, I hope you are ok. I will say I've been through one of those life changing events right before the holidays 23 years ago. My first husband filed for divorce November 1, I moved from a country farmhouse (with two incomes) to an apartment in town ( barely making ends meet) a week before Thanksgiving, went through the holidays living alone for the first time in my life at 32 years old. I could go on, but I am here to tell you I am sooooo much happier now than I ever was then. Much much much. I hope whatever you are going through will/can get better soon.

    Cindy Bee

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  45. Grace, I hope that all turns out well for you in the end. Take a deep breath, and things will all fall in place.

    Those scarves? Bet the recipients will be delighted to get them.

    Knit on.

    Jen

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  46. I am sure everything will fall into place...
    It always does...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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  47. i sooooo wish they would do away with gifts at christmas time, or make an age limit. after age 18, no gifts just love and companionship!! and maybe a home made ornament or some cookies!!

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  48. A friend once said to me when I was struggling with recovery from a stroke, nothing lasts forever. And she was right. Hang on, you'll get through it. xoxo

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