Monday, March 24, 2014

You can't buy Love like that!

We are shaped and fashioned by what we love.
                Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


I am so very blessed to have three sisters who live close by and my Mom is so lucky to have four daughters who live close, this makes life better for all of us. When one is down we all have continued to rally round and get the other through. I love this and probably sometimes forget just how incredible this is and for some people unfortunately rare. We are four strong stubborn sisters determined to make our Mom’s life the best it can possibly be no matter what.

I know I sometimes say things like Pearly finds my blog posts boring but that is just teasing. In her defense she has heard every story I have ever told since she was born so I can imagine she knows me better than anyone. I cannot imagine getting through life without her or my other sisters even when they drive me crazy. Mom has had many things trying to keep her down lately but I would like to share a few stories of how each one of my sisters with their own special talents can get Mom out of her funk and keep her going.


One day about a week ago I was sitting with Mom, knitting; she was lying in bed and I was just about to leave when in walks Tess with a smile and that determined look on her face, she has always had that. “Come on Mom lets go for a drive, its beautiful out”, Mom wanted no part of this but Tess insisted. A hat was chosen, a coat was put on and slippers were slipped on her feet. Before I knew it I was in the back seat of Tess’s car driving the back roads looking at beautiful barns watching Mom sleep or so we thought in the front seat of the car. Tess and I were chatting and laughing when all of a sudden Mom pipes up with a one liner that had Tess and I both cracking up. Mom wags her finger at Tess and I laugh out loud knowing that was her scolding finger. Tess and I knew then that Mom was on her way back to happy. Tess drove up and parked beside the Llamas and Mom sat right up and had a little chat with them. Tess can get Mom to do what she does not really want to even try. Tess always seems to know Mom will love it when she does. It was such a nice drive and even though it tired Mom out I know she was enjoying every minute of her two daughters shenanigans just like old times. My heart swelled watching them both laugh while going back to her room.


Pearly, one sunny day showed up as I was just leaving after a couple of hours of visiting and knitting with Mom (that is my talent Pearly cannot knit…yet). Pearly got Mom up out of her bed persuaded her to go outside the door to feel the sun on her face. Pearly has this unique ability to make Mom want to see what she sees, I am pretty sure that it is that devilish smile and twinkle in her eye that Pearly inherited from our Dad. Pearly told Mom how warm and beautiful it was and she could not miss this day as it was going to snow again the next day. Next thing I knew Mom was wandering around outside in the sun on the driveway checking things out with Pearly’s coat wrapped around her shoulders while Pearly in her sock feet and no coat, followed Mom around making sure she would be OK. Mom had not ventured out of her room for a while. My heart once again swelled watching them interact.

This past Friday my heart not only swelled but tears were in my eyes as I watched Lizzy hand Mom an incredible gift of love.


Mom at one time used to knit beautiful sweaters, socks, hats, scarves etc. etc. but as the Alzheimer’s progressed especially these last few years but still having this overwhelming need to knit she only knit squares. They are of every colour, every shape and size. When we moved her to the new home we had two gigantic bags full of those squares, we never threw not one out. They were made with Mom’s loving hands. We let Lizzy take them home and she and her daughter J would see what they could do with them. I honestly thought they would not be able to do anything.

Lizzy, her daughter J, Pearly and I met over at Mom’s new home on Friday, poor Tess had to work. Lizzy handed Mom a blanket and pillow cover with Mom’s squares all sewn together like one huge jigsaw puzzle. I could only imagine how much time and patience that took. Mom smiled, she knew what they were and was so proud to see her work.

Mom’s love mixed with Lizzy's love now wrapped around Mom’s shoulders as she sat in her chair. You cannot buy a love like that. I am truly blessed.


In keeping with the LOVE I have a special message from my best friend since we were 5 years old BA.

Thank you for all the prayers wishes and love. I am in surgery probably as you are reading this and know that with the love of my bestest friend Buttons and all the love that has been sent by strangers/now friends I am going to be just fine.
Please get your tests done.  Cancer is a horrible disease but one that we can beat together. Love BA.


Later

49 comments:

  1. What a wonderful gift that was! And how very blessed your mom is to have four daughters nearby. My mom had Alzheimers, so I know what it's like to walk down that tough path with someone you love so much. You are also so blessed to have one another to share in this journey.

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  2. These are precious memories that you and your sisters will treasure. Even better that you have them preserved here in writing.

    Prayers for your friend BA. I'm sure support and her positive attitude will serve her well. XOXO

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  3. You and your sisters...and your Mom are building memories that will last forever! You honor your Mom so much, by continuing to get her to do things that you know will make her happy! Wonderful daughters, you are! :) And I hope BA's surgery goes well!

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  4. Brought tears to my eyes B. That squares blanket is just beautiful!

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  5. Your Mom is so lucky, to have such loving Daughters... And you all are so lucky to have all of each other. Please know that this is a wonderful, wonderful post. Brimming with love. Thank you for sharing.

    I do so hope that your Dear Friend will be fine, after her medical care.

    Gentle hugs,
    Tessa~

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  6. You all are a wonderful family. Beautiful, precious times together!

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  7. What a blessing you and your sisters are to your mother! And I'm sure she blesses you right back. That is a beautiful blanket to give her warmth and love and to remind her of you. I hope BA is doing well!

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  8. i loved this. warmed my heart all the way through. love that beautiful blanket made of love - twice. :)

    blessings to BA.

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  9. Sisters are so wonderful!! The ride with Tess and mom sounds like so much fun for you all!

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  10. You are blessed my friend, blessed with a loving and caring family. Your mom and dad did a good job of raising their 4 girls.

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  11. Buttons, you are so blessed and so is your mom. I love my solitude, I have a husband,I have friends, but I have no children, my brother and sister are both gone, so real old age looks sort of scary from here.

    Please give my love to your friend BA. She too is blessed to have you as a friend. Hugs from the canyon.

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  12. You know, Buttons, sons are great, but there is NOTHING like a mom and her daughters. What a wonderful, loving family. I got teary myself, reading this post. And what a lovely tribute - that blanket and pillow cover. She'll be wrapped in love even when her dear daughters are not there. And bless your friend, BA. I know she will come out fine.

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  13. What a heart-warming post :) Your Mum is enjoying all the LOVE she taught her daughters to share :)

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  14. gorgeous blanket. love all the colors. so cheerful & fun. thinking of ya. big big hugs. ( :

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  15. You have a very special family - I loved each one of these stories!

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  16. Your mom is so blessed to have 4 wonderful, loving daughters. And you are so bless to have 3 loving sisters. I don't have any sisters but I do have 4 wonderful daughters. I have one granddaughter and her name is Tess!
    Wishing all the best to your dear friend BA

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  17. I love the beauty of your world the world that you, your family, friends have built. I read and I feel the love, and I love the blanket. You are a special family, and I am blessed to know (a little) about you,your life your wonderful family, and oh so sweet friend, she'll pull through, all that love, it never fails, God Bless you B.

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  18. I am sure you have heard this a million times but coming from one who has two moms with no relationship whatsoever you are blessed Buttons!
    What a joy to read about your loving sisters( I have 3 no relationship and 3 brothers no relationship)who care and are close to one another. God is with you all! Do wish the best for your family and BA your friend. Life is very short and if you can one should take advantage of it while you have the time!

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  19. That is a gorgeous blanket. You are fortunate to get along with your sisters. Great reading today of your post.

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  20. What a lovely knit quilt! That was just the perfect thing to do with those squares. I am happy for you B, that you and your sisters are close enough to spend time with each other and your mom too.

    And tell BA I'm still praying for her, and sent her a gmail last week.

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  21. That quilt is just so pretty. All those lovely colours and shapes and now your Mom has it to keep her warm and to give her cheer.
    You and your sisters are wonderful and it's a pleasure to read how you each combine your lives to share the care of your Mom.
    Your post is delightful B.
    Hugs and best wishes to BA xx

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  22. Sister bonds are special. I love the blanket!

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  23. So nice that you all have your special gift to bring. The cover is beautiful.

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  24. What a sweet blog post today. I love that the love you have for your Mom and your sisters. Your Mom is so blessed. I love that she has a blanket that was made with her squares.
    I also like that you have four sisters and none of you are alone. That really is special.

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  25. What a sweet post. I wish my sister hadn't died when I was 5. My mother would've appreciated having both of us there helping her at the end, instead of feeling guilty for heaping it all on me. You are very blessed to have those relationships with your sisters and mom.

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  26. Sweet B,

    Your Mom adores you, your sisters and Pearly. Everything you do with and for her is held deep inside your mom's heart. The pillow and blanket are beautiful. Give your mom a hug from an Oklahoma friend.

    Keeping your friend BA and mom in my prayers.

    Hugs to you,
    Sandy

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  27. What a heartwarming post - made my eyes a little moist. But if asked I will blame allergies :)

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  28. Love can make everything special...as special as your Mom!...:)JP

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  29. What a lovely post . I do like all the colours of that blanket . Glad you all get together with your mum . Thanks for sharing . Have a good day !

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  30. Oh, I had goosebumps... I just love that love blanket!!
    And cheers & good vibes are still being sent for your BFF.

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  31. Oh B! This was another great post. Loved reading about your sisters and how they relate to your Mom. What a perfect solution for all those squares, and so meaningful. You have quite a family!

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  32. that's a great family where each has a different talent. It's a challenge to visit someone with dementia. My Dad had Parkinson's and his last year was a struggle for all.

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  33. What a wonderful gift for your mother! And good luck to your friend!

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  34. What an amazing family you are! The things you do — the things you can do and accomplish. You do make things fun for your Mom.

    How close are your to calving time?

    Blessings and Bear hugs!

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  35. Lovely cover of many colours.
    You somewhat are lucky to have sister and brothers to share some of your mums bad days with as well as her good of course.
    You take care, Hugs M xox

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  36. I love this post. Love, love, LOVE this post. What wonderful gifts you each bring to your mom.

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  37. Your post has me tearing up. So sweet my friend.

    Hugs~

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  38. You are so lucky to have the support of your sisters at this time of your mother's illness and she is also lucky to have 4 fabulous girls to take care of her in their different ways. My brother lived in England when my mum deteriorated. He supported her financially and I did the hands on work. It wasn't easy.

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  39. Everyone does his/her best part. My two brothers and I take care of my mom in different ways, just as you and your sisters do for your mother. Hugs all around from Linda@Wetcreek Blog

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  40. Having all of her daughters close by and dedicated to bringing joy into her life is such a priceless gift for your mom. xo

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  41. The blanket is amazing. What a treasure!

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  42. I have goosebumps.
    So special.

    Cindy Bee

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  43. What an incredible post filled with love and inspiration. Thank you for sharing B and the blanket... It's magical and I have no doubt a treasure that will love forever in your family.

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  44. What a beautiful post!! I am so glad that you and your family live close to your Mom - that is so important, and you are building lots of wonderful memories for your entire family.

    When my Mom was in her teens and learning to knit, she made up a bunch of squares, much like your Mom has, and sewed them together into a blanket. That blanket is still on the bed in her old room at my grandparents' house, and I smile every time I think of it (and then I remember my one, lonely, knit square at home - I really must get working on my knitting skills!).

    I hope your weather warms up soon, friend! The toque you sent me will come in handy this week as we are back in to a minor cold spell. Between the toque and the mitts my Grandma knit me, I am staying cozy warm in knitted love :)

    Hugs!!
    Mandi

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  45. What a beautiful story, Buttons. The sweater quilt is wonderful - a precious gift. Your Mom is blessed to have such loving daughters. Hugs xo Karen

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  46. A beautiful story AND quilt.

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  47. What a sweet post. I love the beautiful blanket made of her knitted squares.

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  48. Love, that is truly what this tribute to your family shows, love for one another . The gift of the knitted squares all bound together ~ LOVE.

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  49. That's what family is all about.
    You belong the one of the best.

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