Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Backing up skills required.......

Ability hits the mark where presumption overshoots and diffidence falls short.
                                            Nicholas of Cusa


Well now that sounds like a perfectly reasonable skill to possess if you are a farmer, oh yes it does. Let me just say I can and have backed up our truck, the Jeep, the lawnmower and actually every piece of equipment on this farm at one time or another over the years. I am not going to say I always do it well.

My skills came into question a very early morning and while my head was still full of cobwebs on the weekend. It was finally decided to move that manure pile from behind the barn. Behind the barn being the problem. It happens to be an enclosed area and not a wide open space. That is always a much easier place to back up a piece of equipment. Having all the cows join the fun did not help the matter.


I could feel the eyes of My Hero burning into the back of my head as I once again tried to back up the tractor with the dump wagon attached using only the side mirrors. To that waiting cute guy, with a smile or a frown on his face sitting in the backhoe and no doubt twiddling his thumbs. The wagon goes off in the opposite direction once again. I keep forgetting you have to think in reverse. I swear if he was not watching me this job would have been a piece of cake. For some unknown reason I cannot seem to do anything while he is watching me, or I think he is watching me. I am pretty sure this has to be a documented phenomenon for centuries between a man and his wife. I do know that when he is not on the farm I can do it. His presence or the mere thought of his presence turns me into a bundle of nerves and my judging skills retreat.

The manure pile we are talking about is an old manure pile which is now dark rich earth. It is where I had planted those hoped to use in the wedding special seeds. If you remember here I planted heritage seeds consisting of a variety of pumpkins, long necked swan gourds and different varieties of sunflowers. I have to tell you that plan went awry when the sunflowers all bloomed about two weeks before the wedding. The birds did love them we will never know if the bride would have loved them. The gourds and pumpkins were attacked by some strange insects I have never seen before and surrounded by weeds as tall as the barn. We will never know what the guests at the wedding would have thought about them. I did manage to find one tiny pumpkin while My Hero was loading the wagon. Small cute and very late.



 Oh I forgot where I was going with this story. Oh yes… backing up.

Let us just wrap up this story with the fact that I finally gave up on that first load by hopping out of the tractor with my hands in the air in a show of defeat much like waving a white flag. My Hero climbed down out of the backhoe walked over gave me a hug and climbed into the tractor. He backed up the wagon where it should have been in seconds while I watched him. He informed me that I was not giving the tractor enough swing out before backing up.

The next three hours of loads went very well. By the time we made it to that last load I had my swing and those valuable backing up skills down pat and he assured me it had nothing to do with the fact that he continued to turn his head and not watch me like I asked him to every time. He assured me it had everything to do with my skills.



Is he peeking?............ I know he is awesome.

Later.


37 comments:

  1. You're not the only one Buttons... soon after we married, the Great Scot and I had a flat tire whilst driving to town. Now, I've changed tires for years, my oldest brother insisted I learn how, but This time I fumbled everything! Why? Because my sweetheart was watching of course!

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  2. Backing a trailer is not my gift either - no matter WHO is watching! Thanks for the laugh this morning! Have a great day, B!

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  3. I'm with you, Miss B. If J is in the yard or watching me I can't do anything and nothing I do is right. If I'm alone amazingly some tasks are much easier.

    Glad you 2 got a good fall task done. We have some manure to haul as well. Our first problem is the truck we want to use is the silage truck and it's still at the mechanic. Yes, it's been there since mid September with no work done on it.

    You are not alone, My Friend! Thanks for the farm wife story to start the day.

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  4. I am HORRIBLE at backing up . . .
    I feel better now knowing I am not alone . . .

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  5. I definitely know what you mean about backing in while the hubby is watching. The same thing happens to me when I try to back in Big Bertha (Our RV).. And he is always watching. Great photos my friend.

    Hugs~

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  6. We bought a small single axle enclosed trailer to haul gear in this year. That thing is a PITA to back up! DH is better at it than I, but neither of us is very good. It doesn't help that we do not get much practice at it.

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  7. I love your backing up story. I'm not a fan of backing up, backing up a trailer attached to a tractor is even worst. I always admire truckers driving those big cattle trucks or milk trucks and feed trucks that are so long and they back up in tight places like it's nothing.

    I applaud you for not giving up and mastering this job. Your husband is very lucky to have you sharing in the hard work. You're amazing. You have a great guy.

    Hugs,
    JB

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  8. This is so darn cute ~ and true .
    I cant do a darn thing like that if Mountain man is taring at me waiting for it to happen. lol
    I DO think its a man watching woman ,
    waiting for woman to get something done ,
    that man usually does easily ,
    phenomena.

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  9. B,

    I worry about the same exact thing. My husband tells me, aw.....no worries just take it slow and you'll get it. Now we don't have a trailer yet but eventually we will, and I need to learn to backup without him watching otherwise I won't get it.
    Great job of backing my friend.....you picked it up right away.

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  10. that made me laugh - making him promise not to watch. :)

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  11. You've got yourself a sweetheart there.

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  12. I wouldn't know how either. Cute story, wonderful husband you have there. Love your cows shots and the bright orange color of your pumpkin.

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  13. You did good! at least when he wasn't watching. :0) I would not be able to back up at tractor, let alone one with a wagon behind.

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  14. Way to go , I bet he peeked though just to make sure lol ! Thanks for sharing , Have a good day !

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  15. I don't even do a great job backing out of the garage when my husband is watching! You must be a great driver! Hugs, Linda@Wetcreek Blog

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  16. I have back up dyslexia! Lol! Especially using the side mirrors. But by golly, I can get er done...even the semi with the 48 foot hay trailer on! It doesn't help when Cameron is watching though! Ha
    Cheri

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  17. Love your little surprise! Backing up is not one of my finest skills....Good for you - you are such a good sport! xo Karen

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  18. I cannot back up anything, let alone a tractor with a trailer. (I don't see him peeking...)

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  19. Backing up a car with no trailer is all I seem to be able to manage. Years ago, there was a fishing boat "in the family," and it always seemed to have a mind of its own about backing up! xo

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  20. You know he peeked. Men always do! I'm impressed. I can't remember how to drive our tractor forwards!

    Cindy Bee

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  21. Haha. Yes, I know that same feeling. I have trouble backing out of our driveway when 'he's' watching. I almost always edge toward the grass or the mailbox at the end. Unnerving!!

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  22. Oh my goodness...I can sooo identity with you!! Backing up goes way better when no one is watching! I still haven't learned to back up a four wheeled wagon...and I can't back up using my mirrors! You're good!!

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  23. oh my sides hurt-you two could be my Auntie Ragna and Uncle Roddy, she said the same thing, however I was often with her when he wasn't and I'm only saying, her tractor never had enough swing whether he was there or not :-0 we once crashed into a tree on the way to a community picnic, I was sworn to secrecy, when I asked about the dint, she said to say the cows did it.

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  24. I don't go too well myself if my husband is watching me, much better on my own.

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  25. I have a hard enough time backing up my Corolla...

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  26. I can so relate to not doing well when my husband is watching!!

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  27. Cute story! And yes, it sounds familiar. It's always harder when they're watching. Sounds like your hero is sweet and understanding like mine. But it would be nice to easily pull it off while they're watching, wouldn't it. :-)

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  28. Well buttons, there you have it. Lesson learned "improvement needed on the swing out"!!!!! I'm sure we can do that !?!?!?

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  29. What a delightful post!

    Once Arkansas Game and Fish were giving boat backing classes. Hubby wanted me to sign up. I knew if I did I would become from that point forward The Boat Backer which is a fearful thing for me. Why would any purposely back into a rolling river? Well, I know why but it's something I fear. Sometimes ignorance is a handy excuse for getting out of something.

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  30. Not that you are prejudiced about his innate cuteness, or anything!!!
    I like the last image!

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  31. I don't like to be watched either! I am sure you are a most excellent backer.

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  32. LOL! This hit home on many levels. Well, I can't think in reverse for one. So I am a terrible backer-upper. And every time I'm driving along with my husband I know that he is evaluating my every move and, as a result, I don't drive well. He considers himself an excellent driver (don't all men??) so he figures his advice will be well-received. But I would like to have a dollar for every time I've said to him, "Do you want to drive???" But, you know, in reality I like it when he does.

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  33. lol i'm the worst backer upper ever! when we still lived in san diego and would take the jet ski's out...after nick had a couple/few beers i'd have to drive the truck/trailer home but as soon as i got to our house, we'd exchange places so he could back it up into the driveway...even drunk he's better at it than me lol

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  34. thankfully I have always had help with flats! knock on wood! ( :

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  35. I hate to admit it, but I have reversed into at least three cars. I always think of myself as a fab driver, but facts are facts!

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  36. When it comes to backing up I am terrible, even with a car.

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