Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Dream Homes!

Every home where love abides and friendship is a guest is surely home,
and home, sweet home;
for there the heart can rest.
               Henry van Dyke


A dream home in the making and then my returning back to my own has kept me busy this last little while. My returning back to the farm in the darkness after being away for so long had me collapse in bed knowing things were as they should be and my dreams were bittersweet.

Life in the busy city is so very different from the one here on the farm. It is an exciting world. A world where many young people head off to jobs that may to be lacking in the country side. I guess this all started when they finished high school and went off to the city to obtain that higher education. The higher education that would surely give those choices down the road, choices and opportunities some of us had never had that chance to make.


In the city young people from the all across the country move into little houses, starting families, working their dream jobs and making lives and homes far from where they began. Where their parents may still live on farms very proud of their children’s accomplishments but wondering why those accomplishments had to be so very far away.


I the mother of a couple of those well-educated, having many choices and working their dream children am happy but left wondering, what now? Life is a strange twisty path where lessons are learned and our own abilities to adapt to those twists and turns will either make or break us, if we let it. I probably always knew deep down that this day would come. Now that it is here I am going to do what I need to do to get through the finality of this occasion or another twist in life.


Oh yes my daughter has settled down in one of those houses in the city with that dream job, and her dream husband to begin to build her own dreams. She will make a life and that new house a home. Far from where she began and where her parents possibly always hoped it would have been built.

Just like her father and I had done so very long ago they will make a life that will teach lessons that they will learn from. A home where their love will keep it all together no matter what the world may throw at them. Congratulations to the young couple building dreams on their own.


I remember my own father thinking that twenty minute drive to our farm was so very far away. My, oh my how times have changed.

Later


34 comments:

  1. thankfully, transportation options have gotten faster and better and more available since your father's day. :)

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  2. So true about that "old" 20 minute drive. Just amazing when you really think about it.

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  3. Love that 20 minute drive. It is 45 minutes to get to the city and I can tell you every farm, mailbox and who has that livestock on each of those farms. Heart warming to know if my car broke down the people at the end of the lane of that said mailbox are there to help me.I love being home in the country.

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  4. Mine were at in the GTA for awhile but one has recently returned to the homestead in the country!

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  5. Whoops, I hit publish to fast,,,,my 16 year old grandson told me to be sure Mum does NOT get them a new home in a subdivision.

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  6. Maybe someday they will feel the pull of the farm and the better, quieter life. At least they have you and your Hero there when they need you.

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  7. Lovely images today. Transportation is much better today than many years ago.

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  8. Welcome back! I love the image of the pig, and the sunrise in the last photo!!!

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  9. Good that you are back safely.
    History repeating itself - you had a dream when you first were married, so that dream came, now going on in one your two children at this stage. Great isn't it!

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  10. I am glad you are back home. Life changes and the longing for the simple life, always stays with us,
    even after dreams come true, it is those seeds planted in our hearts that come back and move us home.
    There is no place like home. :)

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  11. Great quote to go with your post. It is bittersweet and exciting watching our children go off to realize their dreams.

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  12. It's difficult to see our kids move away and start to make their way in the world, taking risks, getting married, buying houses etc. But, we did and we all learned from our trials and mistakes and the good things that came our way. I'm glad your daughter is getting settled in the city and know they will do well. Hopefully she's not too far away from you as ours is. Strangely, our daughter is in Calgary and our son is down the road from us. But, both are very happy where they are in life. Well. Our daughter would love to be here in NB. LOL Some day we hope that will happen. Blessings.

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  13. It is hard to see our children move away. But we can be happy that they are building and living their dreams. You never know when at some point they will return to their roots and a quieter way of life.
    Welcome home.

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  14. I have daughter living their dream life so far away and i'd love having them living closer. Thak goodness for Skype and email, we stay in touch even though they are travelling to far away places.

    Hugs,
    JB

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  15. Sorry, that should read " daughters"

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  16. This post brings back some guilt on my part. I left the farm at age 17. I'm sure my parents felt like you. Life kept me far away for long periods of time. Now my own kids are far away so I know how Mom and Dad felt.

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  17. What a sweet post. I think all we can hope is that your daughter will remember the lessons of the farm and be willing to share the a little bit of the farm with her city dwelling friends. And you never know they may eventually find their way back to the farm. I guess my parents would say the same thing about me moving so far away. It was just to another farm in another country!
    www.crystalcattle.com

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  18. Ah, yes. The next generation "gets on with life." Things like that happen with surprising regularity.

    Blessings and Bear hugs!

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  19. I can so relate to this post....My son, my only child is just now starting his own life...ugh! Where does the time go?
    Cheri

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  20. Such a sweet and loving post, B. I know that your daughters carry within them the love and stories and strength that you and your Hero gave them. And with transportation and technology the way it is now, it's so much easier to keep in touch than it was. You will always be connected to them. :-)

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  21. Love closes the distance though!

    and... CONCRETE PIG!!!!!!!

    xoxo

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  22. I am lucky, my daughter lives 2 blocks away. We live in the city, but we all want to live on a farm!

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  23. Oh, this tugs at my heartstrings, Buttons. We moved 3000 miles away from our extended families when we were young.....but away from the congestion into the country! Now my own children are scattered away, but still within driving distance for which I am grateful. At least you will get to visit the city any time you like and have a place to stay! And vice versa for them! xo Karen

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  24. Bittersweet is the perfect term. (Speaking as a mom with 2 girls living in Alberta while I live in NS.) You've put the feeling into words perfectly. xoxo

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  25. Straight to my heart. Once agian.

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  26. They spread their wings and fly and we wouldn't have it any other way.

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  27. Buttons, do I spot another lovely well-travelled hat?! I hope it got to visit the dream home with you!

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  28. So many of your thoughts and laments have rushed through my mind and heart as well.
    Sweet post and some bitter sweet in there with it all . . .

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  29. I sometimes think, what now?? But then I think, everything is falling in to place, just the way it is suppose to!! Roots and wings, they need both!!

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  30. Insightful post. - I think it depends on the young person. I never wanted to leave the small town that I grew up in and I haven't. I didn't really want a big career and living close to my parents was something that I treasured and still do having my mom living next door. - It doesn't mean though if you do have dreams of a career and move away from home that you don't love your parents. You just have different dreams.

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  31. I never left the town I grew up in but my brother and sister did. They aren't too far though. 45 minutes for one and 11/2 hours for the other. It makes a difference. I hope you get to visit each other often.

    Cindy Bee

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  32. B,

    It's nice to see your children grow up, marry, and start their own family. She's just a hop, skip, and jump from the farm.
    Hugs to you and your Hero.
    Sandy

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