We must not expect simple answers to far-reaching questions.
However far our gaze penetrates,
there are always heights beyond which block our vision.
Alfred North Whitehead
I am pretty sure I am not the only one wondering about an age old question. Those extra bedrooms in your home, you know what I am talking about here. Those ones you have pushed or your children have independently flown from. In our house, we have two of these rooms. When do our children become guests?
I have pretty much left those two bedrooms the way they were, I have no idea why. I certainly never wanted my girls moving back home once they left, and I had finally adjusted to the advantages of that move, for all of us. That does not mean I do not love them. I am a Mom that believes they had to stand on their own two feet, just like we had to do long ago, to learn to deal with whatever life throws at them. Never an easy thing for any parent to let happen, but that is what I believe. It was difficult and I had many doubts, but I know now that they can handle anything life has in store for them in the future. (If you disagree with this I would not mind hearing about it, everyone has their own ways of parenting and there is no right, or wrong way in this area.)
I think that I left those two rooms the way they were so long for only one reason. My thinking that when they came to visit they would know it was still “home”. That all changed recently. Getting sick of the carpeted floors, those “teenage girl” choice colours, and the constant cleaning of those non-used rooms, and with the promises of beautiful hardwood flooring I began to think differently. This was my chance to possibly have a room where I could sit, to read and to write, possibly a room of my very own. A “guest room” for people that will never need to call this home, but will be comfortable, and it will always feel like home at the time. Would our girls still be able to see it as their home, with all these changes?
Well regardless of any of these questions, we did it, now with one room almost complete and one more to go. Brother Dios, a genius with hardwood flooring, and making it a true work of art has made the first “guest room” an inviting place. With this beautiful new floor, a new paint job, but still those usual decisions to make about “childhood things” left behind, I think this is going to work out just fine. It is beginning to feel like a place anyone could feel at home.
Even with all these beautiful changes, I am still left with these lingering questions: How long should it take for the rooms of your children to be known as the “guest room”? When do those children become your favourite “Guests”? Do any of you know? How long did you wait?
If anyone out there is looking for a genius with hardwood flooring, in transforming an ordinary room into an actual work of art give me a call; I know just the artist. I am sure some of you will remember those wagons Uncle Dios built and were used at our daughter’s wedding. Genius I tell you. Thanks brother Dios.