Wednesday, June 24, 2015

By accident or design..

Lack of something to feel important about
is the greatest tragedy a man may have.
                    Arthur Ernest Morgan


 It took me many years to realize that my life was not really my own and that I indeed had a purpose. I do believe that life is led by something more powerful than any of us. If I had of really listened and believed that, my life would have been much easier. After years of my ignoring it, I had to surrender to those nagging ideas that randomly popped into my head. Sounds scary, doesn’t it?

Well, it scared me too. I had to believe and trust that every”thing” has a purpose and a reason. Those seemingly insignificant things that you may have thought nothing about, as well as those “kick you in the head, knock you down” moments. Those good things in our lives, and unfortunately for us the bad things in our lives, all have a purpose, even if we never understand what, at the time. I have to trust and believe that.

Synchronicity is a word. A word I have come to like. Carl Gustav Jung  believed that just as events may be connected by causality, they may also be connected by meaning. I like that thought. The term, "meaningful coincidences" was also used by Mr. Jung. Fascinating isn’t it?

I am not going to give a lecture or preach to you, I will leave that to the professionals, but I am going to tell you a story, after all, that is what I do.

It has been a couple of tough years for me for many reasons. There were heartbreaking family losses, and big shifts in my own life, bringing on feelings of self-doubt and purpose. I could go on and on, but it does not help you, or me to rehash them here. I then started to feel sorry for myself. Being in tune with the belief of my own sense of purpose in this world, I believed I was done with those long abandoned feelings, I was wrong.

There has been the “Putting on a good front” thing, my grandma always talked about, and my keeping myself so busy, to not think about what I was really feeling. I was having doubts about my writing and this blogging thing. That writing and sharing thing that I love is what has gotten me through many tough things in my life before. I write to stay happy and hopefully share that happy.


I met the most wonderful, talented, young artist on the weekend. Her strength and determination had me in tears while holding her tight. She was standing in the middle of something so big and overwhelming that she could never have believed that she could possibly ever have done it. Fear has a way of crippling your “big somethings”, but she did it. Even with all those scary moments leading up to it, deep down and while constant battling with all those doubts she truly believed it was something she had to do. That is the moment I am talking about. She needed to be there and I needed to be there at that exact moment. Not before, or after, just at that exact moment.

I was so completely drawn to her art, in the middle of a show full of artists. It was very different and exciting, it spoke to me. I cannot explain the pull it had on me.

We were deep in conversation about the meaning of her art, and I was telling her how much I loved it, she laughed a nervous laugh. That’s when I began to realize just how similar our fears and insecurities were, especially when I was her age. I told her that I was a writer so I understood that “feeling different thing”. “What do you write?” she asked. I am a blogger at Buttons….. Before I had finished the sentence she blurts out “Your Buttons?” with tears in her eyes. “Yes I am”.


It seems that through a mutual friend of ours, she had been given a link to my blog and had been reading it for a while now. This mutual friend has always wanted us to meet for some unknown (?) to her reason. All she knew was that we had to meet. It was never the right time I guess. Oh, I love when those “Synchronicity” moments reveal themselves.

That day, I really needed to hear how my story writing and blog posts made her feel and hear how they gave her comfort. She really needed to know, how much her beautiful art meant to me, and how it made me feel, and that we were not that different. It was perfect timing for both of us, just when we really needed it.

I am so happy I finally met this lovely talented young woman. She has no idea, but that day I did not want to go to that show. I just wanted to go home and sit in front of the television to wallow in my own self-pity and my own doubts. Something told me I had to go, so I did. I trusted that feeling.

She is the strongest young person I have ever met. I have no doubt that she is going to go far in this world. She just has to believe that she does indeed have a purpose in her own life and to not let fear have her doubt that. Meeting her that day and remembering that for myself was proof of that. Thank you, my new friend. Hugs B.


Later

42 comments:

  1. If it is meant to be it will be my mum always told me . Wonderful story . Thanks for sharing , Have a good day !

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  2. And you are equally strong B. Meeting....for a reason.

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  3. I happen to agree with you Buttons and I trust that we are here for a reason and with special talents to use for the betterment of our world around us. Sometimes when we listen to our soul and not just to our will, there's something beyond our expectations that happens.
    I'm so glad that you met this young artist.

    Thanks for sharing this.
    Hugs,
    JB

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  4. Miss B,
    Thank you for sharing this inspirational story. What a great experience for both of you girls and so perfectly timed. I, too, believe everything happens for a reason.

    I've been wondering about my purpose, and/or passion, and how to use the gifts God blessed me with. Growing up my passion in life was showing cattle. When that chapter of my life was over it left a whole in my heart. It has left me somewhat lost. Within the last month I have had the thought that maybe my passion could/should be being a great ranch wife. That change in my thinking has been a positive change. It's been easier to deal with getting up in the morning and having no idea what we are going to do today, going with the flow and working on some not so favorite tasks.

    Keep digging and discovering who you are. Keep finding the blessings in everyday things and the people God has put in your life!

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  5. I agree with Country Gal's comment. Things happen for reasons in our life. Glad this happened for you.

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  6. What a fabulous post. I like to know that others ponder on Jung. I teach a few tidbits in my psych class and sometimes find myself applying his theories to everyday situations in my thinking process.

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  7. Oh you don't have to tell me about "meaningful coincidences"...I too am an ardent believer. A wonderful meeting took place that day..yet another "meaningful coincidence" to inspire you and her!!...:)JP

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  8. that was a wonderful meeting that was meant to be. :)

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  9. I go back and forth on "coincidence" but this post has swung me back as a believer.

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  10. What a great way to meet a new friend...good thing you went! Everyday is a present it all depends IF we let it sit around all pretty and unopened or open it and discover something beautiful. I have to keep that attitude...or else go nuts:(

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  11. The world holds such wonderful mysteries, doesn't it? All we have to do is be open and unafraid. Sounds so simple, but is so very difficult for most of us.

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  12. I've seen a lot of different things in your writings, but self-pity is not one of them.

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  13. Those moments of self doubt feed on inertia.

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  14. Buttons,

    Life is the greatest gift, you two were brought together not just by coincidence.
    Cherish this beautiful friendship.
    Hugs,
    Sandy

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  15. we have some synchronicity going on in our life at the moment, totally agree! great post!

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  16. That is a truly inspiring story.
    Lynne x

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  17. I don't think your meeting was by accident. Sounds like perfect timing to me. Wonderful post, Grace!

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  18. I needed to read this now; thank you my friend. *hugs*

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  19. How lovely. For both of you. Thank you.

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  20. What a beautiful story. I'm glad two wonderfully creative people met...and it was right.

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  21. I have always thought of you as a strong person, from your blogs and cmments. I still do and it is encouraging to see that someone can struggle and put on a strong front, yet realize that others are out there to help and encourage. God will never give you more grief than you can handle. Thanks for the post and the insite.

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  22. I too believe it happens for a reason. It was meant to be. You both have a purpose and this is a wonderful blog.

    Your a great writer. The Lord will not give you too much that you cannot handle to handle. He knows you more then you know yourself.
    In scriptures he said. I knew you before your Mother.

    Loved your blog story.

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  23. Self-doubt keeps us honest, Buttons, and humble, and empathetic, and kind. You are all of those - put together, and translate it in your writing. How wonderful to meet someone that you have touched, and vice-versa. I do believe in synchronicity.

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  24. Artists and writers put themselves out in front of the public. the public can make judgements and we are somewhat fragile so we worry. I like your posts and many times you've made me think things over.

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  25. Your story is heartwarming and honest. So glad to hear of two artists meeting for the first time. I felt sentimental while reading the last part of the story. Not sure why. Thanks for sharing!

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  26. What a lovely story, a real true one. What a surprise for you both, to chat and finally know that the young lady had been reading your blog. It was meant to be for each of you, life can be like that....Hugs M xox

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  27. A friend of mine calls things like this "God-incidences" (rather than coincidences). Glad you were both in the right place at the right time.

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  28. I love those moments, when the world seems like a smaller place! hugs!!!

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  29. What a blessing you are to each other . . . and to me. Yes, each of us is born with a plan, God's plan. We can choose to be a part of it, or take our own path. But His way is best. His way allows Him to use us to bless so many others, both people we have met and will never meet. You and I will probably never meet on this earth, but your blog certainly blesses me :). Have a wonderful day my friend!

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  30. You are such an inspiration, Buttons! I'm so glad you and this young artist met each other as clearly this was good for both of you!

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  31. What a great moment in time for you and your young friend. I call them "God Moments", a small part of a bigger plan. Exciting!

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  32. I too believe that things happen for a reason; that we do things when we are supposed to; that things happen for a reason, and that people come into our lives at the right time, and for reasons that are not always obvious to us.
    This is obviously what happened to you. You were at a place where you were supposed to be, at the right time, and things just all came together. Synchronicity is right. Thanks for sharing your stories with us.

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  33. All things happen for a reason - this may be something I needed to read just at this time. I often try to figure things out too much - I think maybe I just need to accept and believe that in due course I may know "why." I must tell you, I love the sequence of photos - first the far-off gaze of the herd, then the come hither, and finally the closeup. Great!

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  34. Certainly beautifully perfect synchronicity

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  35. I love this story, it warmed my heart and I'm so grateful for these moments.

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  36. I think each of us struggles with self-doubt and it can be difficult to shake some days. Then there's the occasional burst of sunshine to remind us why we struggle in the first place. :)

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  37. some meeting are not by chance at all!!! have a wonderful weekend!!

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  38. Such a beautiful post! Thank you for inspiring so many people, many more than you could ever realise.

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  39. Isn't life a grand miracle of surprises!

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  40. Well, that's a surprise! How lovely!

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  41. So uplifting to read your post B. Life and its timing never ceases to amaze me - your paths were definitely meant to cross and isn't it incredible to think of each of the twists and turns of each of your journeys over the years that lead you both to that meeting place! :D)

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