Sunday, February 28, 2016

Life and death in The Land of Blog

Where can a man better be than with his family?
                                       Jean Francois Marmontel


This has been a difficult week. We in Blogland have lost another talented beautiful soul. We add that to the list of many talented beautiful souls that have been lost in our world since my first year of blogging. This is hard, oh so very hard.

It is true that we may, or may not have met any of these people. We spilled our most precious of thoughts, shared our most precious of moments, and we loved them like they were family. A huge piece of our lives, which may seem invisible to outsiders, is very visible, and real to all of us.


The day that I read on another blog about our friend Tina or EGCameraGirl I cried as if I had known her all of my life. I mourned and still mourn for this person I knew everything about, a person I knew nothing about. Sure, we entered her world most every day and talked via comments back and forth, through email, Facebook and our blogs but we never met. I loved this woman for her love of life and generosity in sharing her world.

The day I read this I felt very helpless, I honestly still do. It was exactly the same feeling, on that day the news of the deaths of our blog family members Beth Marie, and our dear much too young Leontien. They are still in my heart, and I am positive in many of yours.

The day I found out about EG, I searched through my stacks of cards and letters from blogger family that I have never met in person, but who I have been in contact. I searched out their phone numbers and I phoned these people. These people I think of as my family. I told them how much I appreciate them and what they do to bring joy into to my life. This seems very important to me.


So, since I do not have all your phone numbers, I want all of my blogger family to know how much I appreciate you and love you for what you have brought into my life. For every comment passed along, for every photo of your world you have shared, and for every story, you have told. Thank you, for trusting me with your most precious moments. For trusting me with your joys and letting me comfort and listen during your sorrows. I want to thank you for your ability to get through every one of them, and for helping me get through every one of my own. This is the way it is in The Land of Blog and I for one, would not change that feeling of love of family for anything.


So in honour of all whom we have lost, we will all carry on and share our lives because those we have lost, of all the people, would understand. HUGS to all and rest in peace my friends you will always be in our hearts.


Later

44 comments:

  1. Beautiful, Grace! In spite of not having met these online friends, they still enrich our lives as much, and sometimes more than our flesh and blood friends! Thank you for being in my world too, in spite of my blog laying dormant for so long! xoJanet

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  2. Beautiful . . . dear, caring, loving Buttons . . .
    My thoughts parallel yours . . . I didn't know Tina . . . I had seen her name, knew of her, I think she may have stopped by and visited me a few times, although my knowing of her was more from those I follow, like you . . . Since reading of Tina and her husband's sudden death, through Eileen, of Viewing Nature With Eileen . . . I have thiught of her, both of them , their family . . . constantly . . . since I heard this yesterday, on the twenty seventh . . . And the writing your thoughts brings me to tears as well . . . there is such an intimacy in our blogging world . . . and I think that is why we feel such passion, empathy, sorrow . . . a testimony to friendships like no other . . . and to not take lightly . . . I feel so, so sad for Tina and her husband's family . . . oh my . . . and for you. Thank you for writing such a beautiful message . . . Grace . . . fits you . . perfectly . . .

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  3. B. This has happened to me this year too. Things about Leontien were showing up around her birthday, a friend from Maine was there one day and gone the next and now this. When I read their last posts on one day and the next day they are no longer with us, it is overwhelming. I really regard the people I communicate with regularly as friends and feel like I have been invited into their homes. Once again, you have created a very meaningful post.

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  4. Peace and hugs to you, dear Buttons.

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  5. oh my goodness, you've said it so eloquently, I feel this way but could never find the words, I have few words for my blog I wish I could share more, I love it here in your world of blog- I had a jingle pop into my head this morning while getting ready for the day it was for you but this EG news has pushed my words to the side-you write and you share amazingly dear thoughts and feelings, you brighten my world considerably...

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  6. Beautifully said from the heart. Thank you.

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  7. Grace, you are a very special person and you are real.
    My condolences on the loss of your blogger friend. I remember fondly Leontien, she was taken away way too soon too. They leave a big void.
    Big hugs,
    Julia

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  8. Hello, what a lovely post. I think we are all sad about losing Tina and her hubby Tom so tragically. She was a consistant commenter on my blog, always had something nice to say. Tina was a super nice blogging friend, she will be missed. My hubby and I try to enjoy each and every day like it could be our last, we take nothing for granted. Thanks for sharing, great post. Happy Sunday, enjoy your new week ahead!

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  9. Grace, Buttons. Your words are perfect for this sad time in our blogging world. Thank you for sharing them. I think you said what we all think about each other. Hugs and blessings.
    Pam

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  10. Grace, I'm feeling much as you describe. I've been thinking of Tina since I got the news and of Tina and Tom's bereaved family. I want to let you know that you can post a message to family on the funeral home site. Here is the link (http://skwarchukfuneralhome.com/deathnotices.htm). Go to the death notice of Tina Forrester and click the book link at the bottom to send a message. Hugs to you from CO.

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  11. Such lovely words, Grace! I will miss Tina and her photography, kind words, and sense of self. Funny how we can feel so connected to people we have never met.

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  12. You nailed it! I have so been saddened, despite never having met Tina. She visited all those places that were near and dear to my heart.

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  13. Your thoughts express very well your loss. I had only started following EG Camera Girl two weeks ago so my time with her has been short. My sympathy to you in your loss.

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  14. Oh, Grace, I didn't know about Tina until now. We have been FB friends for a while. This is such a shock and so very sad. May she and her husband rest in peace and enjoy the light and love of heaven.

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  15. And yes, people we have never met in person are indeed true friends. It hurts just as much to lose them.

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  16. B.....Dear Friend,
    You're and Angel who touches everyone your talk to through your blog posts, and e-mails.
    I'm honored to have you as a friend. I do feel as if I know you because I've followed you for a while now in Blogger, and because we both have recently lost our Mother's. I'm sure our Mother's are looking down on us as they enjoy a nice cup of tea or coffee and exchange stories about us every chance they can.
    I'm sorry to hear about our Blogger friend and husband. May they both rest in peace.
    Hugs,
    Sandy

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  17. I never saw more than a couple of instalments of EGCamera Girl's blog, and then only by clicking a link on another blog, but I was still sad to hear she had died. Her photos were lovely.

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  18. What a beautiful, heart felt post. I also feel like blogging friends become family.

    I did not know EG until I read someone else's post about she and her husband. My heart ached. The good thing I saw out of this, was that they went 'together'. My condolences to their families and friends.

    Love & hugs ~ FlowerLady

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  19. Your words say it so perfectly. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Tina was special in the blog community and will truly missed. May she and her hubby rest in peace.
    Blessings to you my friend. xo

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  20. So well said. I agree completely. One of my very best prayer partners is a lady I have NEVER met in person. We "post" back and forth, we text, and we talk on the phone occasionally. But we have NEVER met in person . . . and I have told this beautiful woman some of my deepest hurts and fears. I am so very thankful for the friends I have made through my blog, and I'm thankful for you. Blessings to you my sweet friend.

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  21. Thank you, Grace, for being you.

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  22. another beautiful and very thoughtful entry!!! the snow makes everything look so pretty!!!!

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  23. I still think of Leontien too. I suspect there are many of us who remember her fondly.

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  24. Blessings on you too Grace. Many of us know you from your print work as well. I remember Leontien fondly. The journey she took us on opened many eyes to the reality of cancer. She has such a wonderful family.

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  25. I left my comment for this post on your earlier post. I often think of Leontien too, she was such a spirit, so young. Take care, dear Buttons.

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  26. I have appreciated "getting to know you," too, B! This unexpected death is just another reminder to be thankful for the people in our lives. It seems I've had a few too many reminders of this truth lately.

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  27. I think that is a lot of the reason I've backed off blogging. It hurts to lose someone whether to death or just absence. That and I don't use the computer at home. I get 8 hours a day and that is too much really.

    I'm sorry for your loss. I have a blogging friend MIA and I worry about her, that something awful has happened to silence her or worse, the cancer is back and she is gone forever.

    You are a brave and generous soul to put your life out there.

    Mary

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  28. An eloquent post BT, and one from the heart. The words are so soothing at a time like this. Thank you!

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  29. i have done so much research about Tina. it seems the accident is under investigation. i wonder to myself, how some one i have never met could have such an influence of me & my life in the way this is ongoing. i am like you, i did cry, have found that it continues to weigh on my mind, i have seen some comments on FB that have bugged me, i can only imagine if her daughter read them, i didn't know she had a daughter, what she decided to share was her business, we all share what we feel we want to, & we have to be ok with that. i have had to walk away from FB, & just let it go. but it does ruffle my feathers the wrong way. i may have not known Tina personally but it does mean something. we all can and do affect others in ways we never know happened or will happen. i did send a note to the funeral through their email address that Eileen did mention, but i wonder do i need to do more, but what??! i guess for me, she is my Mother's age, she could be my mother. i could be mourning my mother. there is someone one who is missing & mourning her mother, her/his family is missing and mourning the both of them, which is so huge. she was there for many so many times during the beginning of my bloggy time. if you find something that helps you pass it on for me. i am making it happen ... but i pray her family & daughter are ok, knowing that some many bloggers are on her side. sending her well loved thoughts, etc. love ya, Buttons! keep those cows warm with lots of hats. that makes me smile knowing you do that. thanks! ( :

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  30. She is the first blogger friend I have lost...and she was one of the first friends I made...I still find it hard to believe I won't find a new photo if I go to her blog.

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  31. I didn't know of the lady. Sad very sad..Hugs M xxooxx

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  32. I didn't know of Tina but many have paid tributes to her and her beautiful photography.
    Over many years I had penpals from around the world and gradually I had letters from family members telling me their mother or perhaps wife had passed away. I had become so close to some that it was like losing a family member, they meant so much to me.
    Now I belong in Blog Land, although I don't have a lot of followers, there are those that I feel so close to as though I know them in person. Two of them I exchange emails with which has brought us even closer.
    Your tribute to Tina and others is beautiful. Hugs.

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  33. I think you've spoken for all of us. Sending you many hugs and, yes, love.

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  34. You are so right that our online friends are as special to us, sometimes even more special, than our "in person" friends because we may connect with them more often, and we have something that brought us together that is unique--in your case, your blogs. i hope that your writing this, and the comments it has generated, will bring you some peace. Tina is smiling on all of you.
    Hugs, C.

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  35. What lovely sentiments. I didn't know anything about this blogging community when I started a blog. What a wonderful experience, one of the best things I've ever done.

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  36. Such a beautiful tribute...your words capture our blogging world beautifully. I read about Tina's tragic accident in our local news, without realising that it was her. I am deeply saddened. Her outstanding photography and lovely spirit will be sorely missed.

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