Thursday, June 16, 2011

Gone But Not Forgotten!

   “Dig my life deep enough, you must
Find broken friendships round its inner
Which one my careless hand let slip
   and fall—
Brave with faint memories, rich in

            Arthur Upson

 The quote is not how I feel I just liked it.

 When I started blogging nine months ago, I had no idea how it would impact my thoughts, and feelings.
 I get up every morning and read these incredible posts by people I have never met, and may never meet. People I really do not know, even though I feel like I do. A friendship, like no other.
 I have gotten to know these people, their likes and their dislikes. Their opinions being the same, or different than my own. Always respecting these differences.
 I have seen photos of their children, their families, and even their pets. I have read about their happiest moments, and struggles they have been dealing with.
 I have become emotionally attached to someone I do not know, even though I think I do.
 Imagine my surprise when two of my fellow blogger sites just disappeared. My friends disappeared. I am left to wonder, and yes-even worry.
 Are you OK?
 Is your family OK?
 Did you just decide to leave this blogger world?
 Questions, questions, questions,
I do hope all is well; my imagination takes me to places I do not want to go. Take care my friends.
 I think a technological friendship is a wonderful thing. I have made wonderful friendships, but it definitely has its downside, the unknown.
 I wonder about pen pals, generations ago. When those letters stopped; did they have the same questions, and worries?
 Am I the only one that thinks this way?



  1. No, you are not. I, too, wonder why when a follower departs without a word. Was it something I said?

    These blogger friends, it seems to me, are unique. We will never physically meet 90% of them, if that many. And yet they are real, and giving and caring and uplifting.

    I have pretty much come to realize that,for me, it is important to enjoy these friendships as completely as I can in the here and now, because I cannot know or predict what the future holds.


  2. Buttons, I have noticed some missing blogs as of late and wondered the same as you have...????

  3. I feel completely the same. I get up every morning to "check" on everyone. And last week someone stopped following and I was hurt. I didn't know why and that bothers me.
    I love getting new friends, but love all of my followers as if I see them every day. Being a stay home mom and having these connections is important to me. And I hope to meet some of my bloggy friends some day. Take care and thank you for all your wonderful comments. ~dusty~

  4. Hello Everyone I am talking about the blogs that completely disappear, not about followers that have dropped me. I am sure some of you know what blog I am talking about. I am also talking about a wonderful older lady, from far away, who was full of life and very active. Her posts have just stopped although her blog remains. It is too hard to imagine what happened.
    I enjoy my blogger friends immensely.
    If anyone knows who I am talking about and knows anything let me know how she is I would appreciate it. B

  5. I understand Buttons. I don't know the missing person but i certainly appreciate when someone tells they will be away for awhile. It isn't my business why but when you befriend someone it is common courtesy so they do not worry.

    I hope your cyber friend is ok.

    Isn't it odd how we get to know each other even though, I, for example, do not put lots of personal information like photos and such on my blog. It just seeps through in the writing and random pictures.

  6. i've had this happen to 2 bloggers i really cared about. one pulled her blog down and cancelled her i.d. one day without a word. i worried something traumatic had happened that made her world suddenly dark and unhappy since her blog was just nothing but sunshine and laughter. the other was a young fiery red-headed lady who fiercely loved her pets and her husband. her posts just stopped one day. her blog stayed up, her i.d. was still there, but not one word since - even after several of us posted "i hope all is okay" messages for months thereafter. i worry something tragic happened which took her life. i still think about these two woman who shared a tiny overlap in this world we live in. and i still miss them both...

  7. Missing friends is a concern. Sometimes life just gets too busy or complicated and something has to be taken off the plate. As great as blogging is, it isn't a priority. Hoping the missing are just busy.

    I'm glad I've met you. We may never see each other face to face but I consider you a friend.

  8. I've been blogging off and on for about 4 years now -- but whenever I take a break, I always post my intentions, so as not to cause any grief to anyone.

    These interweb friendships are so fragile. One wrong word or miscommunication, and it can be over in a heartbeat. Just the way it is, unfortunately.

  9. nope feel the same way. I do think the eletronic world has taken over the pen pal relationships. Because of it I am richer I have even met many of my electronic friends and remain friends 10+ years later.

  10. Yes, I agree that technological freindship is a great thing.

  11. I follow your sentiments on blogging and fellow bloggers. There is that disconnect there however, where blogging friends are not as close as a phone call away. We worry.

  12. beautiful, stormy sky. perfectly illustrates the sentiment...

    i have a handful of blogging friends who left this world for facebook. they just found it easier to post their images and thoughts there. which i can see. i have that many more fb friends because i knew them as bloggers first. then there's my flickr friends! pretty amazing when you think about all the connections made.

    i've also had the same penpal for 34 years. we really only write "real" letters during christmas and birthdays now, but we share long emails maybe once a month.

    there, i've dated myself. ;o)

  13. wonderful entry buttons.

    i have only been connected to other bloggers for a short period but share your sentiments.

    great shot of the stormy sky!!!

  14. Oh Buttons, I know what you mean!

    Long ago families and friends took risks and crossed countries and continents to the west, to the unknown; im sure they felt the same way...are we in a new frontier? maybe. Or an old frontier of the heart..?

    "Don't ask (it's forbidden to know) what end the gods have granted to me or you, Leuconoe. Don't play with Babylonian fortune-telling either. How much better it is to endure whatever will be!
    Whether Jupiter has allotted to you many more winters or this final one
    which even now wears out the Tyrrhenian sea on the rocks placed opposite — be wise, strain the wine, and scale back your long hopes to a short period. While we speak, envious time will have {already} fled...
    Seize the day, trusting as little as possible in the future."

    - Quintus Horatius Flaccus (Venusia, December 8, 65 BC – Rome, November 27, 8 BC)

  15. I'm another one who says, no, you're not the only one who thinks that way.
    I started blogging only a year ago, and had one follower for a while. I was really thrilled that I could communicate with someone else in that way. I enjoyed her posts as well and looked forward to our exchanges.
    Then, one day her blog just completely disappeared. It was awful at first but I figured she had her reasons and wished her well.
    I then realised how much I'd enjoyed that fleeting long-distance friendship. So, I started reading other blogs and slowly found others with like interests. I'm so glad you're among the ones I found Buttons :D)
    It's what I call a blog-friendship, just like having penpals really, only it's more immediate.

  16. People on the net come and go, and of course as most of us have experienced they don't always say why!
    There one minute, gone the next.
    I expect unexpected things happen in their lives.
    I feel enriched in what I have learned from them, to have known them, to have perhaps helped them in some small way, or visa versa.
    These people are never forgotten, and are always in our hearts.
    Take care..from M :)


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